Perhaps treating people the way you want to be treated doesn’t mean doing the things for them, that you would want someone to do for you.
Perhaps it means doing for them, what they need. The same way you’d want someone to do for you, what you need.
Perhaps it means understanding and respecting what is important to them, even if it’s not important to you; because if the tables were turned, you would want the same.
We should not learn about and understand love languages so that we can best tell people how we like to be loved. Instead, we should learn about and understand love languages so that we can best learn how to love others, they way they want to be loved.
The need for us to be fluent in love is not so that we can find the best way to be loved but rather, how best we can love.
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For some people, especially those with vivid imaginations, it is difficult to express themselves conventionally. There’s simply too much to say, too many ways in which to describe a single item, too many colors, too many sounds. For those people, there is poetry. | Born, raised and living in Africa. | Art lover (In all it's forms) | Hopeless romantic. | Believes in making the world a better place; one thought, one word, one action at a time.
Ndapewoshali is an accountant and Namibian labour law specialist by profession, a self-taught graphic designer and avid community activist. She uses writing to tackle (sometimes uncomfortable) social issues with the hope of transforming the Namibian and the global community’s mindset on the current status quo. Ndapewoshali believes that love, as a verb (through kindness, patience, common understanding and tolerance), consistent education and reform, are the answers for all social, economic and political ills. She is also a strong advocate for mental health awareness and the importance of creating a safe environment in which mental health is prioritized and mental illness is destigmatized. Ndapewoshali is an art-loving (in all its forms), hopeless romantic who believes in making the world a better place; one thought, one word, one action at a time.
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