This document was adapted by Ndapewoshali Ndahafa Ashipala in 2021, from a list was compiled by Hermien Elago and Ndapewoshali Ndahafa Ashipala in 2020; for information-sharing purposes only.
http://www.ndapewoshaliwrites.com turns five years old on 18th January 2021! In those five years, I’ve learnt so much and grown incredibly from your interactions, conversations and contributions.
As we close off 2020, Ntando Mbele had me on her channel today and we discussed personal finances and peer pressure. Collaborating with other YouTubers is quickly becoming one of my favourite things to do.
I had scars on my face from all the fights and would always deny when my colleagues and friends asked if I was fighting and gave excuses of “I fell or had and accident”. The abuse got out of hand and I started taking tranquilizers as a mechanism of coping with the emotional impact. I was crushed and eventually, I became suicidal. For some reason, leaving my marriage never seemed like an option to be. One day, I saw an SMS from my wife and before I even finished reading it, I put the phone down on the table jumped out of the fifth-floor window from my office building. I’m not sure how I survived, but I did.
We also delve in to treatment for mental illnesses and we try to find the answer to the questions “Ok, so I’ve been diagnosed, what now?” and “Does therapy really work?”
We talk about her favorite things about being a mom and some of the real challenges about being a mom that, perhaps, we as societies, don’t talk about enough. I hope you find this informative.
With that said, in this video I’m talking about love (as I always do) but I’m giving a little insight as to why I speak about it so much, with such great urgency and with so much conviction. I also share a little bit about the loved ones I’ve lost, whose lives and actions made me more convicted in my stance and perspective.
This is a conversation I had with Dr. Alex Ilunga. In it, I ask him a few questions about different personality traits, personality disorders, and mental health in general, from a medical doctor’s point of view.
In this conversation, the owners of Tololi (a Namibian Online Store) and Shiwa | The Baker, Fillemon Nangolo and Shiwomeho Kalla, respectively, talk to me about the hurdles and victories of entrepreneurship in Namibia. It’s great motivation if you’re on the fence about taking tat leap!
Perhaps, in a subconscious act of protest against myself and my social conditioning, I have chosen to not see my hair as something I struggle with. Perhaps I have decided to reject the narrative that maintaining my afro is an unnecessary form of self-punishment. Perhaps it’s just my hair. It’s not difficult; it just is… and I love it.